10 Myths About Breakups You Need To Stop Believing for Your Own Good
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Now let’s take a look at 10 Myths About Breakups You Need To Stop Believing in order to grow yourself as a person!
We’ve all went through breakups and no matter if it ended badly or in a casual manner there will always be some things you should be asking yourself, starting with: what happened, what did you do wrong and maybe you should have seen it happening earlier.
No matter if you’re the one getting dumped or the one end the relationship here are 10 myths about breakups you need to stop believing!
Myth number 1: It’s not you; it’s me.
Probably the most common way out, it should imply that the entire fault is on the one ending the relationship, well, it doesn’t work that way. People who use this phrase, probably lack both the social skills and maturity to verbalize what’s really going on.
Instead of using such a generic phrase maybe point out why you’re not compatible with each other, it will go a long way and help both of you in your next relationships.
Myth number 2: You have to get under someone to get over someone.
Yes, rebound sex is a thing, but no matter how much you’d want it, having meaningless intercourse with someone will not help you move on. Like it or not, there were some feelings involved in your previous relationship, feelings you’ll need to decipher for yourself in order to have emotional closure.
Myth number 3: “You’re too good for me.”
Probably the worst way to end things because it doesn’t make any sense, it’s just a cover-up for personal insecurities. It’s the most cowardly way to approach a break-up. It basically says That you have an incredibly low self-esteem and you’re about to sabotage every relationship you get in because you’re weak and offer this excuse in order to make yourself feel better instead of talking about what’s actually wrong.
Myth number 4: “I’m just not boyfriend or girlfriend material”
These are the people that just want to fool around. Ending it like this simply means there was never interest in developing a relationship. Being together is a continuous work-in-progress, learning from each other and making it work because you have a strong connection with your partner, a connection you care enough about to put some effort in.
Myth number 5: You can change your partner.
You can’t change a person. Going into a relationship expecting to make your partner the person you want him or her to be is setting yourself up for disappointment. All you can do is “love them, appreciate them, encourage them, stand by them and empower them to make changes” that are in their best interest.
Myth number 6: Once a cheater, always a cheater!
People can change, they just need a good enough reason to. The 2 main reasons people cheat are: 1. not being completely committed to the relationship because they don’t think it’s going to last or 2. they are afraid that things are getting too serious and desperately look for a way out. Please remember that we’re talking about relationships not marriages, there’s an entire story there, but maybe another time!
Myth number 7: If you don’t care about the relationship, you should just break up by text.
No matter how “over it” you are, every relationship deserves enough kindness and dignity to be ended with respect. Texting or doing it through a friend is pretty screwed up and disrespectful to someone who did give you time and attention and deserves more than the fade away or you being so rude and avoidant that you eventually make [him or her] dump you. Don’t be that person!
Myth number 8: If you did the breaking up, you should get over it quicker.
That’s simply not true! Just because you realize the relationship is not going to work that doesn’t mean it wouldn’t hurt like hell! Having to break someone’s heart is incredibly painful and No one walks out of a relationship unscathed.
Myth number 9: If you miss your EX, it means you should be together.
There should always be a good enough reason to break-up, that reason should serve as a guideline for what to look for in future relationships. Missing your ex is something everybody goes through. You moved on for the right reason so you have no need to look backwards!
Myth number 10: If I don’t find something better I can always go back to how things were!
You couldn’t be further from the truth! Life has a cruel way for us to appreciate a good thing only after it passed! People change, they learn, they develop and grow. Your partner has learned from your previous relationship and will use that knowledge to find someone who truly appreciates them for who they are. Taking you back would be a mistake and most do learn their lesson the first time!
As we’ve mentioned at the beginning of this article, we’ve made this video that sums up everything we’ve talked about that you can share with your friends.
This ends our story on the most popular 10 Myths About Breakups You Need To Stop Believing! We’re really curious to learn more from your experience, what did go wrong in your past relationships and what that meant for you! Let us know in the comments below!