You Might Not Be a Billionaire Right Now but There’s No Reason Why You Shouldn’t Act Like One.
So you’ve got big plans to go out and achieve great things. Maybe become an entrepreneur, a YouTube star, a coach or public speaker. Maybe you want to follow your dream of working in a sought-after industry where image plays a big part, like fashion, music or film.
You know deep down you’ve got what it takes. It’s just a different, more challenging world than the one you’re used to. And you need that confidence boost, that push to take a leap of faith into the unknown. There is a solution to your problem. Put simply, you gotta ‘fake it ‘til you make it’.
This isn’t about performing brain surgery or flying a plane, when you have no idea how to do those things. Maybe you saw Leonardo DiCaprio doing those in the movie ‘Catch Me If You Can’. Yep, fun movie — but not what we’re talking about here.
What we are talking about is ramping up your confidence, getting outside your comfort zone, learning what you need to, and becoming the best, most confident version of yourself — a version of ‘you’ that’s better equipped to make your goals and dreams happen.
Aluxers, are you up for the challenge? Let’s get to it and find out how.
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With that out of the way, let’s get into the first strategy.
Understand That You Can Become the Version of ‘You’ You Need to Be
Aluxers, we promise, we’re not getting all flower power on you with this one. It’s an observable fact that everything and everybody is constantly changing and becoming something or something new. That includes our personalities, our abilities, our confidence levels, the way others see us, and the way we see ourselves.
Think about those before-they-were famous photos we’ve all seen of celebrities, when they were awkward, socially inept teenagers. And look at the uber-confident, successful people they are now. They figured out how to become their best versions of themselves. And any of us can do the same.
Maybe the idea of speaking to a room full of investors, doing a TED Talk, being a business leader or on the podium — even though it’s something you really want, right now, it’s hard for you to realistically picture yourself there.
Remember that nobody was born confident, a natural in front of an audience, an expert in their field, a great entertainer, negotiator, or whatever — they all developed the necessary qualities to become those things. And you can too.
Define an Image of the ‘You’ You Want to Become
Any time we want to achieve something, we need to set ourselves clear goals. And this is no different. Whatever attributes you need to acquire, picture a version of yourself — not just with those qualities, but oozing them.
Is your ideal version of you somebody who’s got amazing communication skills, or who can inspire people whenever words come out of their mouth? Is it an expert in something? Is it somebody who’s in incredibly good shape, or more attractive than you think you are now? Define the version of ‘you’ you want to become.
Have a picture of it in your mind. We’re not saying this is just going to make you become that person — but it’s a start, because now you know what to aim for.
Find Role Models — Study Them and Mimic Them
Great, now you’ve got that image of what you’re aiming for. You’re going to want to look to others for inspiration too. Observe people who have the qualities you want — whether it’s somebody you know, or somebody famous. Observe them. Think about what it is in the way the carry themselves, and that adds to their success. And mimic those things.
If it’s somebody who has amazing communication skills, see how they construct arguments, explain, or persuade. Study elegant turns of phrase they use and start slipping those into conversation too.
In fact, studying and mimicking is what actors do this when they’re preparing for a role. It lets them convince the audience they’re the person they’re pretending to be. And you can do the same thing to persuade people you’re sophisticated, persuasive, eloquent and self-assured. Except you’re not so much pretending. You’re becoming that person.
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Dress the Part
Maybe you’ve heard the saying, ‘dress for the job you want, not the job you have’. The way you dress alters the way other people perceive you and make them take you more seriously. So start dressing for the version of ‘you’ you’re aiming for.
And it can even the way you perceive yourself. Wear something that gives off serious success vibes, and the chances are, you’ll start acting that way.
If you can’t afford that Armani suit that will make you feel a million dollars, don’t worry, we’ve got you covered. Check out our video on ‘15 Ways to Look Expensive Without Spending A Fortune’.
Work on Your Body Language Too
This one’s similar to dressing for who you want to be — the great thing is it’s not going to cost you a penny. Just like dressing for success, there’s a lot of research on how the right body language builds confidence, and makes others see you in a different light.
Check out Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk on it. She talks about how making yourself small or hunching over makes you feel weak — and how opening yourself up, rolling your shoulders back and leaning in and just looking confident really makes you feel, and act that way. Do remember though — you don’t want to overdo it, it’ll just come across as ridiculous and arrogant. Which you don’t want.
Other small things you can do: smile more; talk in a calm composed voice; take deep breaths and relax. They all help you feel and appear more self-assured.
And another thing, that we’re big fans of at Alux, is meditation. As well as helping with the things we just mentioned, it can even help you find solutions to all kinds of problems you’re facing.
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That’s how much we believe in it!
Remind Yourself of What You’re Already Good At
Everybody’s got things they’re good at. And whatever goals you’re aiming for, it ought to be something that draws on talents or abilities that you’ve already demonstrated.
Let’s say, you want to be a lawyer — you’re not so good at speaking or persuading people but at least you’re good at logical thinking. Well the good news is, you’ve got a base to build on. You’ve got the clear reasoning in place — you need to build up the communication part. Or you want to be a YouTuber — you’ve got loads of great ideas to communicate to an audience — but you feel awkward appearing on screen.
The same is true — you’ve got a starting point.
Remind yourself of what you’re good at — that’s your foundation. And whenever you’re not feeling confident, think about what you know you’re capable of. And use it to big yourself up.
Start Doing Stuff That’s Outside Your Comfort Zone
So, you’ve worked on your confidence and your inner game. Now’s the time to start acting. Like Richard Branson put it, ‘If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes — then learn how to do it later.’ Have that spirit of jumping into things, even when you’re not totally prepared.
That means — stop thinking about starting that YouTube channel and actually start it. Stop dreaming about those jobs that are a little out of reach — just start applying for them and see what happens. Start pitching those business ideas you’ve dreamed up. Put yourself out there. Sure, you’ll trip up in places and even fall flat on your face — but it doesn’t matter.
If you don’t take action, opportunities will never come your way. And can have a million great ideas — but with no action, they’ll come to nothing. So take action now. Break out of your comfort zone. And what you don’t know, you can learn along the way.
Don’t Be Afraid of Making Mistakes
Yep, if you’re outside your comfort zone, you can be sure, mistakes are going to happen. So, don’t beat yourself up about them. Learn from them and know how to pick yourself up.
Also very important — mistakes are fine, but try to avoid ones that are going to cost you, or have serious consequences.
When you’re an aspiring entrepreneur, you can make a fool of yourself in front of an investor. You’ll laugh about that one day. But investing thousands in a business idea, and losing it all because you had no idea what you were doing — yep, that’s one you could have, should have avoided.
That’s also why you can fake it ‘til you make as a YouTuber, an online marketer or as an entrepreneur — but as a brain surgery or a pilot, not such a great idea.
Don’t Forget to Learn What You Need To
Remember that Richard Branson quote — about saying yes when somebody gives you a great opportunity? Let’s not forget the second part — ‘learn to do it later’. So, make sure you do exactly that. Whatever knowledge you’re lacking, learn it. Learn it fast. And then go above and beyond, and keep on learning until you know more than anyone else.
Remember, the idea is to fake it ‘til you make it. Not to keep on faking it forever. So learn what you need to. Be an information sponge. Read books. Take courses.
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help
Whatever it is you want to fake until you’re good at it — any help you can get is going to give a huge boost to your chances of getting there. Maybe somebody’s asked you to write blog posts for them, and you’ve never done it before. You might not want to tell that person you’re feeling out of your depth. But do find someone you can confide in, who knows more than you, who can point you in the right direction and help get you on track.
That’s also why entrepreneurs who are on their way to success usually get a mentor. They’re learning as they go along, at breakneck speed — and that mentor, who knows their way around the business world better than they do, is going to give them much better chances of success.
If It Doesn’t Feel Right, Stop — and Try Something Else
If it feels wrong — or if it feels like you’re faking it so much it just doesn’t feel like you anymore — then stop and rethink.
A big part of faking it ‘til you make it is building up confidence. So, if you just feel out of place doing something, that’s not going to help build up your confidence — it’s probably just going to destroy it.
So take a few steps back. Remind yourself one more time what you’re good at — and think of how else you can use those talents. Remember we talked about that YouTuber who has loads of great ideas but hates the camera? If they still feel that way after a few weeks — thin of another way you can apply your talents. In this case, faking it in front of the camera didn’t work. It won’t work all the time.
Don’t worry, adapt, and in this case, maybe try a blog instead.
Get Feedback — and Find Out What You Need to Improve
Outside opinions are going to point you on the way to success. If you’re learning to become an entrepreneur, listen to everything customers say. If it’s that YouTube channel or blog — how are viewers or readers reacting? What do the analytics tell you? What do people say in the comments?
Get as much feedback as you can. Work out what you’re doing right and keep on doing it. And see what you still need to develop or change — and do that.
Collect Proof of Your Success
Every time you hit a goal, take note of it. Give yourself a big pat on the back — celebrate — and keep it on your running tally of wins. Every time you post a video that gets a huge number of views. Any month you get a huge number of orders. Any time somebody invests in your business. Any time a client recommends you and sends new business your way.
By now, you’re already somewhere on the journey from faking it to making it. But you need to be able to remind yourself of your success. It’s going to be important whenever you hit a block in the road — whenever something goes wrong, your confidence is down, and you start to ask yourself ‘Am I really any good at this’, or ‘Should I be doing this?’.
That’s the time to pull out that tally of successes. If you’ve got those to show, you can answer those questions with big yesses — they’ll help you pull yourself back up, and keep you on track.
Big Yourself up in Nerve-Wracking Situations
On the path between faking it ‘til we make it, we’re all going to find ourselves in nerve-wracking situations. Pitching to that influential investor, or client. Or just meeting somebody who’s famous and successful, and you feel in awe of. Do whatever it takes to big yourself up.
Remind yourself of those successes. You can also use psychological tricks to stop yourself from feeling nervous — like close your eyes for a few seconds and imagine you’re the most qualified, successful person in the room. That’s not a pass to start acting arrogant — like we said, that’s not something you want to end up doing. It’s a strategy to remind yourself that you’re important, and you count as well.
Keep on Faking It ‘Til You Make It
Once you’ve found the track that feels right, where one success builds on another, stay on it. And build yourself up but by bit. At some point, you’ll get to the stage where the successes outnumber the failures — the things you did right outnumber the mistakes — when you don’t have to keep on bigging yourself up, because it comes naturally. Once that happens, you’re not faking it anymore. You’ve made it.
What do you think is the best way to fake it ‘til you make it?