Do you ever think about the lies you tell yourself, lies which end up costing you the life you could’ve lived otherwise?
Success begins within yourself, with your mind and how you make the most use out of your cognitive abilities.
Yet people choose to self sabotage themselves by absorbing self-damaging ideas and considering those truth. If these lies become a part of yourself, you’re already trapped and there’s little chance of you escaping.
You’re going to go through life disappointed, angry at the world and how unfair it is, without realizing that you brought most of it upon yourself when you made the decision to accept these ideas as truth.
With that said, we wanted to bring forth a series of excuses we’ve heard people use to justify their lack or action or success. In your life, it’s likely that you’ve heard them said by others or even yourself.
The goal of this article is to bring attention to them so you can self-check your beliefs.
As always, here’s the video version if you don’t feel like reading the entire article:
Here are 15 Lies You’re Telling Yourself that are keeping you from being rich, successful and happy!
Number 1: I don’t know where to start or what do to
Truth be told, you’re surrounded by opportunity. If you pause reading this right now and focus on it, you’ll probably come up with 3 ideas that excite you on the spot.
You’re under the impression that you need a UNIQUE idea in order to be successful, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.
An idea is worth a million dollars only after it’s made a million dollars!
Until then, ideas are worthless. The difference is in the EXECUTION. Deep within yourself you know exactly where to start and what you need to do to get this project you’ve been considering going. It’s just that you’re scared of failure and embarrassment. You’re scared that you don’t know enough.
We’ll let you in on a little secret:
You don’t need to know the entire course to take your first step!
Take a piece of paper and write down 3 things you can do to get started after you finish this article, then proceed to do those!
Number 2: I’m special
Ohhh, we love them snowflakes, born under a special star, meant for something great! That’s what you think, because you’ve only lived life as yourself. You’re the one experiencing this content right now, you’re the one looking at other people and observing them, but the truth is a bunch of other people are reading this at the exact moment as you do. They observe and judge others the same way that you do.
We’ll dare to go even further: If you died today, less than 20 people would be aware that you’re gone. Less than 20. Everybody else on planet earth will go about their day without any disturbance in their routine.
Here’s what we want you to take away from this point:
YOU ARE NOT SPECIAL, UNTIL YOU BECOME SPECIAL!
If you really want to get there, be more than you are today, create more, help more people, reach more people, make a difference and the world will notice if you do it for long enough or greatly enough.
Until then, put your head down and check your ego.
Number 3: I’ll start tomorrow or next Monday
Why not right now? Why do you have to give yourself some leeway to do something that you know is right for you?
The best time to start was yesterday, the second best is today!
The problem with postponing actions into the future is that it make it easier to keep pushing them away. This type of behavior bleeds into all aspects of your existence and make you avoid taking the action you know would improve your life.
That’s why people never quit smoking or go on a diet. They postpone it for next Monday and then proceed to shove food in their face to the fullest before then. Once they do begin, their bodies are in hyperdrive because of the excess it’s been given and now asks for more, making it even more difficult to start.
By not attacking the issue head on, you are just self-sabotaging yourself.
We made a brilliant video called 15 Signs You’ll never be rich which you can check out below. In it you’ll learn about all these self-sabotages people do that keep them from financial success.
Number 4: It’s my parents fault
Cool, let’s play the blame game, with everyone and everything else apart from yourself.
It’s super easy and convenient to attribute your failures to an external source, but the truth is, everyone is living their own lives, with their own struggles and battles. You are living with yours.
Growing up, you’ve always looked at your parents as providers, caretakers and people who historically have been providing solutions to your problems.
As you grow older and smarter, the parent illusion slowly fades away and you begin to see your parents for what they really are. A couple of generic people trying their best to figure shit out. They had no idea what they were doing and have been winging it for years.
Statistically speaking, they had is worse than you did in terms of access to resources & opportunities, so quit bitching and get busy.
You’re the way you are because you’re entitled to something you haven’t earned. You are failing to use every resource you have at your disposal because you are actually lazy and play it off like somebody else doesn’t want you to win. Which fits perfectly into the next lie you tell yourself.
Number 5: I can’t do it alone, I require guidance, I need a mentor
You don’t need a mentor, you need to focus.
Mentors are incredibly valuable to have, but they behave like gasoline on an already burning fire. You’re not even a spark yet. Pouring gasoline on the ground doesn’t make for big bonfires if there isn’t a fire to begin with. Also, that would be a waste of gasoline to begin with, if you catch our drift.
When people say they can’t do it alone, they’re not looking for a real mentor, they’re looking for a nanny. Somebody to hold their hand, open doors for them and carry them over small ponds so they don’t get their shoes wet.
What you’re not realizing is that a mentor’s job is to call you out on your bullshit. We’re really good at that, so if this was the excuse you’ve been using, feel free to consider the videos on our channel your mentor. Now that you have guidance and the truth about your excuses is out there, what are you doing to do?
It’s not the mentor, it’s the mentee that’s the problem in your case!
Number 6: I have all the time in the world
Actually, no. You have just a few years ahead of you. A third of that time you will be asleep unaware of what’s going on. Another third you’ll be spending doing trivial things like eating, shitting what you just ate, stuck in traffic or doing other time wasteful things.
Right off the bat you only have a third of the time you actually have to make the most out of your life.
If you factor in the impact of raising kids and illnesses, that time for yourself is cut in half. So now you’re left with the truth.
You don’t have much time.
Having time is the most expensive illusion to indulge yourself in, because you’re spending for it time you can’t afford to spend and sooner than you think the bill comes and you’re gonna find yourself shocked that it all went away in a blink of an eye.
Life is segmented into different chapters. Your childhood is already over, you’re not getting that back.
You’re probably in the middle of your current chapter right now and before you know it it’s going to be done.
In life you have 5 such chapters: childhood, professional growth, parenthood, getting older & being old. You might not realize this before, but your book is not that thick.
Number 7: If I had more time then I would do it
Sticking with the temporal motive, this is one of the most common lies we tell ourselves as a whole. We believe that there isn’t enough time in the day to get everything done.
But how many of you do you actually keep track of what you do every day hour by hour?
How many of you happen to use a calendar for the day?
You can’t improve what you do not measure!
It’s amazing how much you can get done with an extra hour of focused work. You can easily do that by cutting an hour out from you 8 to 9 hours of sleep you get every night. Track your day since waking up until you go to bed and you’ll realize you waste almost half of your active hours.
There’s a difference between being busy and being productive!
Number 8: I’m too old or young for that
Guess what, we’re living in the age of the internet. Here, nobody cares how old are you or what you look like.
Sure, what you look like can be an advantage if you want to leverage it, but it’s mostly how capable you are of delivering value to other people. Get that done and everything will take care of itself.
Let us debunk each side of the coin.
I’m too old for this new world. = I’ve made up my mind that I do not wish to compete here and will live my remaining days in the misery of my choices. What you probably don’t understand is that with age, you get wisdom, something these kids lack.
You don’t need to compete with them at their game, leverage your skills to win at the things you know that they can’t compete with you.
I’m too young to start = I use this as an excuse to play video games and not feel bad. The truth is, there’s no longer an age limit.
The sooner you start the quicker you’ll grow. In the beginning you’ll make a ton of mistakes which eventually turn into lessons.
This happens to everyone. You have a unique advantage of going through these mistakes and lessons super early on and by the time you’re in your mid 20s, you’re already way ahead of everybody else.
Number 9: When I have X Y Z I will be happy
Most people find out why this is such a big lie we tell ourselves the hard way.
You equate happiness with the achievement of a material possession or even status. You think that once you get there you will be happy. Unfortunately for you, if you are unhappy now, you’ll not find happiness in the material.
Money, possessions and status, make our lives more comfortable, but do very little for how we deal with life.
You know the cliche that says: Happiness comes from within? Well, it’s cliche for a reason, it’s deeply rooted in truth.
Understanding the difference between anxiety, happiness, focus and peace of mind is of greatly importance if you wish you learn how to juggle between these states.
Number 10: I’m too f*cked up
Life’s not easy to say the least!
You’ve probably been through some things that almost broke you, that made you want to quit or altered the way you look at life. You’ve experience things that would make most people give up and label the universe as merciless and horrible, for life is unfair and unjust. And you’d be completely right to do so.
But you haven’t quit. Somehow, despite all that you’ve been through, all the horrible things you’ve had to overcome, you’re here right now watching this self-help video. A terrible video meant to make you dig even deeper within yourself, a video that’s bringing forth all that’s dark.
Yet, you are still here! You might be responsible for all the things we mention in this video, all these lies you’re telling yourself, but at least you’re willing to be honest about them! Shine a light on each one and then fight it. You might lose some of these battles, but even a small win with any of them will move yourself forward. That’s how you get better, you face the bullshit, you deal with it and you move forward.
If you’ve been struggling with this for a while, there’s a bestselling book out there we recommend you pick up. It’s called: UNF*CK YOURSELF: Get out of your head and into your life by Gary Bishop. If you’re not willing to spend the 19 dollars for it, go to alux.com/freebook and sign up. You can get the audiobook version for free thanks to our friends at Audible! The book is love by almost everyone right now because it brings focus to how you can rewire your mind to deal with life. Go get it!
Number 11: I don’t have a choice, I’m stuck here
There’s always a choice, you’re just not ready to put in the effort to get it done.
Unless somebody is holding you chained against your will, we all the right to pursue a better life, to pursue happiness and to roam free.
The thing that separates between those who manage to “escape” this self imposed trap, is the desire to take the leap, to make the jump, to deal with the unknown that’s out there and with the hardships that await after the fall.
You’re scared of the impact, you’re scared of the things you’re unfamiliar with and that’s why you’re not willing to jump.
But those who do, eventually pick themselves up and go to live better than those who never jump in the first place.
You’re not stuck, you’re just scared!
Number 12: I need to find my soulmate
The idea that there’s this miracle person out there, that will perfectly fit into your life like the final piece in a jigsaw puzzle radically transforming your life is bullshit.
You don’t find a soulmate, you grow alongside someone who’s willing to make this journey with you, until you become better as a team.
Everybody needs a strong partner, someone to help them grow, to tell it like it is, to be there when the rain is pouring and also share the champagne when times are good.
But that’s the paradox of soulmates. You don’t just find that person, because you become that person in time. Focus on yourself, begin the journey and along the way you’ll meet people going the same way, but you need to start, because we all have different starting lines!
Number 13: Wealth is reserved for the privileged
Ughhh, not this again! We’re no longer living in the 16th century. Wealth is accessible to anyone. A poor kid from china is running the largest store in the world. People go from homeless to multi-millionaires in less than a decade and you’re enjoying this piece of content on a device that’s less powerful than what humanity used to get the first people on the moon.
You are wealthy beyond imagination, you’re just ungrateful.
We are closing in on a historical point in time of EQUAL Opportunity. The internet has made it possible for anybody to play around in this marketplace if they decide to do so. There’s literally nothing stopping you from joining this incredible phenomenon. Write a book and self-publish it.
Create any type of product that’s valuable to someone else and people will buy it. It’s never been this cheaper to join that it is right now.
In our video 15 businesses you can start for cheap or even free we broke down those barriers of entry.
You can go to alux.com/sell right now and create a story for free on shopify and sell your products to the world if you choose to.
The internet has leveled the playing field for all of us. The economy is booming, you just need to get your head out of your behind a get a piece for yourself.
Number 14: I know what I’m doing
This lie comes from being ignorant. In the best case scenario, we have a fairly good idea of what we’re doing, but we’re far from knowing everything there is to know.
The arrogance of not accepting a second opinion, the arrogance of being closed minded is what costs people way more in the end.
The goal is to constantly be improving, to keep on learning. We’re being molded by every single piece of information we come in contact with, that’s why you need to be selective.
Be honest with yourself, if you’re lacking in a certain department ask for help, don’t try to play it off like it’s ok because of your ego.
Number 15: I’ve done all I could
Take a moment to step back. Zoom out your existence and look at the person you are from a birds eye view. If you didn’t know that person, what would you think about him or her?
About the way they go about their day, the way they deal with problems. How much effort they put into their work.
If you did this exercise and take the emotional involvement out of it, you’ll realize you’ didn’t really give it your all. You were picky with how much effort you put it, with the time you invest and the choice you’ve made.
We found that in our own personal experience. There’s always something we could’ve done better. The goal is to self-analyze your performance and improve for the future. The last thing you want to do is lie to yourself that that’s all there is to you, that you can’t do better.
Take for example alux.com/art For those of you unaware, we commissioned a professional artist to create some unique artworks for our channel which you can purchase if you want to.
Although it would’ve been a lot cheaper to create the artwork in house, it wouldn’t have sufficed in terms of quality.
That’s why we leveraged someone else’s time and talent for this. We’re constantly learning from every project we undertake with the sole purpose of improving.
Always be satisfied with the work you do, but never think you can’t do better!