‘New Year New Me’ Has Never Quite Worked for Any of Us – Here’s Why
We bet your 2020 resolutions didn’t quite work out, right?
How many of you postponed them until Monday, because it’s not your fault the new year started with a weekend?
Hopefully by now, you’ve moved away from the “new year new me” crap and are ready to actually take things seriously.
In this article, we’ll help you guys figure out why your new year resolutions suck and what to do about it. Don’t you worry Aluxers, we’ll get you on the right path and help you crush this year.
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Saving time when you can is a good new year resolution, here’s the video version of this article.
With that out of the way, let’s start off with the first reason why these resolutions are shallow.
You Made Them Just to Brag on Social Media
Gotcha, you thought we didn’t know.
Many people love saying stuff like “This is my year” because it makes them feel good, which is understandable.
You get your dose of endorphins and call it a day. We know your lying, you know your lying, so what’s the point?
Every early January, Instagram, much as gyms, are flooded with people still hungover from the new year’s party and all they do is make a story about how committed they are this year.
It’s almost like a ritual really.
So the most common reason why your resolutions suck is because they are fake.
But let’s dive a bit deeper and figure out what you can actually do about it.
You Don’t Know What You Want
Take a second and reflect on this one.
You do not know what you want.
What do people want anyways? Happiness, to travel more? To be more productive?
People take it so far as to google “popular new year’s resolution” and figure out what they should do.
Well how do you expect to make it happen if you don’t know what you actually want?
Spend some time to think on this one.
And close connected to this one, comes number
They Are Not What You Actually Want
So all your friends want to “live life to the fullest” in 2021.
You should live life to the fullest too, right? I mean why wouldn’t you, it sounds fun and exciting.
People think their new year resolution must be something life changing, that will completely reinvent you as a person. This is mainly because of peer pressure and social media hype.
You don’t want to be the one who’s new year resolution is to take the trash out more often, while your friend’s new year resolution is to build a school, right?
Well why not? What does your friend, or that celebrity, has to do with how your life looks.
At the end of the day, you are in this alone, and you decide where you want to make progress.
If you’ve been a couch potato for the past 6 months and now you want to clean up your place more often, that’s fine, and believe us, you’ll make more progress in your life, than your friends who “live life to the fullest”.
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You Dream Too Big
People believe that January gives them superpowers somehow.
Like now they can do things they couldn’t do for literally years.
And we get it, it’s a new year, a new beginning, a chance to start fresh with no guilt.
But setting highly unrealistic expectations is a sure path to failure.
You need to keep your dreams in check.
There is no “shoot for the stars” here.
Most people fail in their new year’s resolutions because they expect way too much of them out of nowhere.
You Didn’t Set a Time Frame
So you planned to get back in shape.
When exactly? Probably since Monday, I mean like we said in the intro, it’s not your fault the new year started with a weekend.
And for how long? Until March? For the whole year?
And how often do you “quote” get back in shape? 3 times a week maybe?
That seems about right. Not setting a time frame means everything is up for interpretations. You can’t be late if you didn’t set a time frame.
But you know who is never late? Time.
February will come at the same pace it came for years. So will March and so on.
Time will pass either way, so you might as well go with it.
You Forget About Them
Funny enough, one of the most common reasons people fail in their resolutions is because they simply forget about it.
How many times have you planned to do something on a Monday, then Monday comes and you forget about it, only to remember it the next day, or never.
The same happens with new year’s resolutions.
You don’t need to tattoo them on your forehead but setting reminders goes a long way.
They Are Too Generic
Wanting to get in shape is not the same as wanting to not eat cake for breakfast every day.
The first one can mean pretty much everything, while the second one is clear and to the point.
When setting those resolutions, you need to keep in mind that the more precise they are, the easier it is for you to follow suit.
And the more detailed, the better.
If your plan is to walk for 20 minutes after every morning, it’s super easy to track, and you know exactly, to the second, if you did it or not.
If your plan is to be healthier, there is no way for you to know when you’re doing it deliberately.
They Are Not Actionable
This is for all the people that said “2021 is their year”.
They are gonna do more, be more, achieve more.
That’s cool and all and it’s also bullsh*t.
How exactly are you going to “be more”, besides maybe putting on some weight maybe?
In order to have an actionable resolution, you must be able to start doing it right now.
You want to play the guitar more? You can learn a new song right now.
You want to cook more and better? You can look up a recipe and try it out right now.
You want to not get tired after going up the stairs? You can go for a power walk right now.
If not actionable, it’s not doable.
Your Timing Sucks
If your new year’s resolution is to do something next October, what are you going to do until then?
And this works backwards too.
We see a lot of people planning to lose weight this year and they develop this mentality where they say “I will stuff my face with everything I can eat, because on 1th of January it’s all over”.
Not only is this unhealthy as hell, the timing also sucks because you are working against the natural flow of things.
To move away from this, we suggest picking up something that you can achieve in a short time frame. This should give you enough momentum, and also enough space to take care of the following problem, which is..
They Are Not Flexible
A lot can happen in a year.
You saw in 2020 how things can change real quick.
If your desired resolution isn’t working out exactly how you planned, make sure to pivot, not quit. If you plan to run every day and somehow you break your leg, find something else to keep your heart rate up.
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But jokes aside, your resolutions need to be flexible to meet your ever-changing reality.
This is also important when you succeed with your initial plan.
If you manage to actually get in shape by March, now your plan needs to change into keeping the weight down and staying healthy.
They Don’t Have a Good Reason Behind Them
This is a tough one, because it requires a bit of introspection.
If you don’t have a good reason to do something, you won’t do it, no matter if you planned for it under the mistletoe.
If you have no reason to get in shape, other than wishing for it, you most likely won’t do it, and the same goes for any other new year’s resolution you’ve had.
So how exactly do you find your reason?
The first step is to ask yourself honestly why you really want that.
Let’s take the health example, since it’s the easiest to understand.
For most people, being healthy for the sake of being healthy is not worth it.
That’s where the introspection part comes in.
You need to really look inwards and find areas where your health is blocking you.
Do you have friends that enjoy hiking but you get tired after a couple flights of stars and could never join them? Maybe that reason works for you; to be healthy enough to go on hikes and to actually enjoy it.
Find your reason, Aluxers!
You Are Not Ready
Or “You are not prepared”. Yes, that’s an Illidan Stormrage reference.
Jokes aside, some wish to cut toxic people out of their lives but they are not actually prepared to do it. And that’s fine, as long as you remember to keep your resolutions flexible.
Instead, you should work towards being in the right place mentaly and then strive for healthier relationships.
In a more basic example, if you plan to run a marathon next month but never ran in your life, well, obviously, you are not ready.
You Didn’t Plan Them Out
This is as straightforward as it gets and you probably heard this alot, because it’s true.
If you don’t have a solid plan, it’s very unlikely you’ll keep the promises you made to the drunk 2020 version of you.
They Are Not Sustainable
Listen, at the end of the day, anybody can keep their resolution for a day.
But can you do it for a week or months to come?
This is a super common mistake people make when setting their new year resolution.
They heavily overestimate what they can do in a day, without considering for how long they can keep it up.
Running 3 miles one time is not the same as running 3 miles every day for 3 months.
So instead, set yourself up for success. Don’t promise yourself things you know you can’t do every day.
You Don’t Need to Make Resolutions
Lastly Aluxers, this is the most important thing. If you leave with anything from this article, leave with this one.
You don’t need to make resolutions, you need to make habits.
Those who really know what they’re doing do not make new year resolutions, they make new habits.
This shift in perspective is super powerful.
Habits take time to form, but once you lock them down, they are with you almost forever.
Just think of how many bad habits you have.
If you want to be healthier, get into the habit of cooking yourself a healthy breakfast every morning.
If you want to read more, get into the habit of reading or listening to a couple of pages before you go to bed.
Speaking of which, and in line with what we are talking about, we recommend
“The Power of Habit” by Charles Duhigg.
Aluxers, do you plan to get any new habits this year? Let us know in the comments.