Signs You are AVERAGE
Some of you were told you were special growing up, but somehow reality didn’t catch up with that promise, did it? How did “average” become your reality and were there any signs?
Somehow something happened where all the expectations you had from life went out the door, and the signs were there.
By the end of this article, you’ll have a clear understanding of what parts of your life make you mediocre, and maybe it will be the wake-up call you need. Let’s see how many of these you can relate to. Here are 15 signs you are just like everyone else
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Sign #1 – Other people tell you when to wake up, where to be, how to dress, and what to do
Other people own at least a third of your time.
You waste time in traffic to get to a job where your boss says they appreciate you, but if you drop dead tomorrow, you’ll be replaced before the end of the week.
You don’t see a reason to push yourself at work, so you work just a little bit more than the bare minimum so you don’t draw attention.
Although you are overdue for a promotion, you suck it up because at least you consider it a familiar environment.
You are mentally exhausted.
You can’t wait to get back home, but even there, you feel like life is passing you by.
You haven’t gotten a good night’s sleep in a while. You wake up tired.
People tell you, “You look tired”. You just want to be left alone.
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Sign #2 – Everywhere you go, you are part of a crowd
You ride the bus. You sit in class.
You fly coach. You involuntarily rub shoulders with other people. You wait in line to get in or buy products.
Despite being surrounded by people, you feel alone.
You don’t talk to your neighbors. Maybe just that one lady across from you
You haven’t found your people, your squad, or your tribe.
You wish you did, but you don’t have the energy to put yourself out there or smile and nod through another boring conversation.
You barely talk to your parents and siblings. You feel like they don’t really get you.
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Sign #3 – Time flies by, and every day of your life looks just like the rest
This has been going on for over 5 years now.
Life feels like a hamster wheel most of the time.
You live for the weekend.
Even then, you find yourself at events or gatherings you haven’t organized. You’re always a +1. The highlight of your day is when you get to pet a dog.
You are in a perpetual cycle of monotony, struggle, and temporary boredom. Nothing sticks.
Your name is either on your clothes or on the door to your small office.
You tell others about things you wish you were doing and how you plan to start something soon. But they’ve been hearing the same story for years now, and you haven’t made any progress since.
You find comfort in the fact that your friends are mediocre as well, and you think you are doing slightly better than they are.
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Sign #4 – You live at most in the present, but can’t see the future
It’s why your life is so linear and isn’t steadily increasing.
You think your best years are behind you, and in the best-case scenario, life will maintain its current pace.
You’re fine with that. You do not really own much, or at least nothing of value.
Most of your income is spent on rent, food, and subscriptions.
Whatever extra cash you have available vanishes on small pleasures. You tell yourself that you don’t need much more.
You can’t see a different future for yourself. When you try, it’s more of the same.
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Sign #5 – You say you know the recipe but do not have time to put in the work
You’re the kind of person who says: “I could’ve done that, but…“
You have all the answers, or at least think you do. You’re really good with the theory. You love giving advice, but are bad at following it.
In your mind, you have everything you need to make your dream life a reality. You know what must be done but now’s not the right time.
You are the kind of person who confuses education with progress. You think listening to a podcast somehow makes your life better. It doesn’t.
It’s just another form of entertainment disguised as growth.
You secretly wish life was different. You believe you are destined for more.
Upon careful observation, you realize you know what you want from a big-picture perspective, but don’t know exactly where to start or what the first few steps should be.
You think you have the recipe, but you lack the ingredients. You never had a mentor or anyone shows you how exactly to gather them and give yourself a fighting chance.
If you did, your life would’ve looked radically different.
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You are uncomfortable with difficult conversations
You say you are non-conflictual.
You want everyone to get along. You want everyone to like you… even if that comes at your own expense.
You like sweeping things under the rug. You’d rather pretend you didn’t hear it.
You don’t stand up for your partner or your friends. Instead, you make it seem like it’s their fault. Do you feel this is a sign, maybe?
Some of you are still in your current relationship because you didn’t have the guts to go through the difficult conversation needed to break up.
Speaking of relationships:
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Your partner is just “ok” and they think the same about you
Both of you feel like you’ve settled for each other.
Both of you think you could’ve done better. When you tell them they are everything you wanted out of a partner, you know damn well a part of you is lying.
The proof is when you go to bed at night. Your mind flies elsewhere.
You secretly dream of other people, maybe influencers or people you’ve interacted with when you were younger.
You know who we’re talking about because you keep stalking them online. Most of them don’t even know you exist – and you wish they did.
You have someone who got away.
If your partner is the safe choice, but not the exciting choice, it’s a clear sign for a red flag.
If you had the opportunity to rewind time, you would do it differently; you would be bolder… But bold isn’t who you are now.
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You still live in the city where you were born or nearby
Some of you might have gone to study in the biggest city in your region and decided to put down roots there.
Everything around you is familiar and unchanged. The most exciting thing to happen recently was when they added self-checkout kiosks at your local supermarket.
A few years ago, you got a Starbucks.
You hang out at the same bar, coffee shop, or fast food corner you’ve been hanging out at since forever.
Everything in your life is repetitive. The same road, same store, same food. Seeing the same people for years around is a dead-clear sign.
Everything is a 6/10.
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Your back hurts, and you think you should lose 10 pounds (5 kg)
You don’t feel flexible anymore. You remember a time when you used to.
You make funny noises when you get up.
You flex in the mirror, and from a certain angle, you tell yourself you still have it. You don’t.
The last five years have made you 10 years older.
The gray hairs, the receding hairline or hair loss, the extra weight, the slouch in your posture, and the teeth don’t lie.
Last week, you got tired from climbing just a couple of stairs. You admire people who run, but you have some problems with your kneecaps and there’s no sign it will improve by itself.
You wish you were 5-10 cm taller. You think people would treat you differently if you were taller.
Deep down, you keep telling yourself that when the time is right, you’ll be super focused on your health; you’ll eat right, go to the gym, and be in top shape.
That time will never come.
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You say you have potential, but reality doesn’t think so
You said you were done learning when you finished high school.
You haven’t read a full book in the last 12 months. Yet you’ve rewatched your favorite sitcom at least three times.
When you were young, you saw yourself as slightly different than others.
You thought you were meant for something special, but not in the traditional sense. You chose comfort over risk. You chose the same path.
You feel like you’ve lost momentum.
For a while, you felt you were aligned with the world; everything was in tune. You had all these ideas, you knew more about your passions than everyone else, and you were ready to do something, but you didn’t.
Now you’re a prisoner of life, just floating on a makeshift raft on the river of time with no control.
If you relate to this sign, it means your life is on autopilot. And you should be scared.
You know someone who did it differently and is now in a much better position than you are. They seem happy and full.
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You find escapism in consumption
You eat away at your feelings and drink away your feelings, numbing your mind with “Love is Blind” or “Too Hot to Handle.”
Escaping reality by immersing yourself in virtual ones feels good. Same for playing video games because there you might actually have a chance at being someone of value.
You follow the lives of celebrities because it makes you feel like you’re part of the entourage and hanging around, so you discuss the latest celebrity gossip.
The desire to kick back and do nothing is omnipresent.
You want to put the world on pause, but in such a way that your mind won’t go over everything you still haven’t completed or should’ve done differently.
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You relive old memories over and over in your mind
You go over moments in your life and pretend you would’ve done things differently.
A clear sign of regret is when you have imaginary arguments where you’re winning.
There’s a regret about not finding the right words at the moment or standing up for yourself. You have a couple of memories that you told yourself you will bury deep.
Just by us saying this, they were triggered back into present memory; you know exactly the memories we’re talking about.
No worries; your secret is safe with us, but you’re terrified that if other people find out, your life will be over.
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Your misery is always brought on by others
Or so you say.
You are really good at making excuses. It’s never your fault.
It’s always someone else, something else, or a combination of the two. The government is screwing everything up for you.
Your boss doesn’t see your real value. Your family doesn’t get it.
You’re late because of the traffic, not because you waited until the very last minute to leave.
You didn’t work out today because there’s a barbecue happening next weekend, and it’s best that you start cleaning after that.
You are a victim.
The problem with being a perpetual victim is that, in your mind, the only way out is through external forces.
Someone or something should come in and fix your life for you. You’ve been waiting on that for a while, haven’t you?
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You have accepted that this is who you are and will ever be
This sign is going to hurt: 80% of the population is average.
It’s a bell curve of everything in life, from health to wealth to status. At the very bottom, you see the lowest 10%, and it scares the hell out of you that you could ever end up like that.
At the top, you have the high 10%, who, in your eyes, are some magical creatures that had an unfair advantage and a leg up compared to you.
They don’t deserve it anyway. So you are stuck in the middle.
Like a heartbeat, sometimes doing better than others, sometimes worse.
But looking around you, you realize being average isn’t that bad. It might be boring, but boring can be good if you see it as enough.
The worst position to be in is average and unhappy.
Because your life is comfortable enough for you to never change, you’re still going to go through it with this internal voice telling you you haven’t done anything that matters.
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You are sufficiently happy
Happiness is a weird term because it’s hard to define it when every person has their own definition.
You have a hard time remembering the last time you were truly happy.
But you are not terribly unhappy either.
You are somewhere in between, but not exactly in the middle.
The signs say you’re more happy than you are unhappy.
You are sufficiently healthy.
Your family is sufficiently healthy.
Your job is okay-ish.
Your life is okay-ish.
And okay-ish is a freaking great position to be in.
Why?
The thing about being average—being somewhere in the middle—is that half of the population is doing worse than you are.
Sure, you could focus on the half doing better, but don’t test the universe, for it will put you in your place real quick.
You should be sufficiently happy every day you can because there will come a day when life might not be as good as it is today.
So embrace it. Enjoy it as it is right now. The first step to making things better is defining where things are right now.
This is your second chance.
This is the opportunity to not settle for mediocrity.
Work on yourself until you no longer identify with any of these signs and you will escape the average life you live today.
