2020 Has Been the Official Year of Boredom. But if You Don’t Get These 15 Things Right 2021 Won’t Go Any Better.
My life sucks.
I’m soooo bored.
I have nothing to do.
That’s the narrative for a lot of people during Covid, but if this was your rhetoric before Covid, and now you’re using Covid as an excuse for your own shortcomings, it’s time to rethink things and shape up and we’re here to highlight all the reasons why your life is boring.
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With that out of the way, let’s get it on with the list.
You Are Living Your Life Comparatively
Aluxers, we all fall into this trap occasionally, and the sooner we can identify that we’re being dragged down the rabbit hole, the sooner we can get out our funk.
First and foremost – nobody’s life is perfect regardless of how they make it look on social media. Yes, it may be that the girl from high school always looks amazing on her social media posts, but then she’s getting up at the crack of dawn to create those perfect shots. Are you doing that?
And yes, that guy at the office got the promotion, but he’s been burning the midnight oil for months to achieve that goal. Did you do that same?
You can’t say sh*t like, he or she is so lucky… wake up Aluxers. People create their own luck, and they ensure they remain open-minded to new possibilities. And if you’re like, “I’m so unlucky, nothing ever good happens to me,” well then that’s what will happen.
However, if you’re happy for other’s successes, and realize that you’re on your own journey at your own pace, then surprise, surprise, your luck will change, and great things will start happening for you.
You Can’t Be Bothered to Change Out of Sweatpants
If you’re waking up and sniffing under your armpit to decide whether or not you’re going to change your clothing, then it’s time to snap out of it.
We get it – sweatpants, yoga pants, PJs, hoodies, and oversized tees have been the staple wardrobe for the most part of 2020. Add the, “if you’re reading this, you’re too close,” facemask and what more does a person need?
A lot more! And if this is you every day, it’s understandable why your life is so boring.
Time to dust off ye old make-up bag, find your long-lost razer, and check to see if your flat-iron is still working – and spruce up. Make the effort for yourself and learn to like that person staring back at you in the mirror.
When you settle for less, it’s easy to lose sight of the wonderful things you could have. Let these 15 Best Things in Life inspire you.
You Keep Saying “No”
Shonda Rhimes wrote a book called, “Year of Yes,” and the book was the result of the following statement. “You never say yes to anything.” Rhimes is the creator of Grey’s Anatomy and Scandal, and she affirms how saying yes for 1 year changed her life.
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It’s simple. Start saying Yes to invites, to suggestions and social gatherings, and see how quickly your life changes from dull as f*ck to pretty worthwhile living.
You Expect Sh*t to Change but You Don’t Change Yourself
Rumi one said, “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
Aluxers, if you’re waiting for other people to change – you’re going to be waiting a long time. If you’re bored out of your mind and you’re expecting someone to arrange a get-together, that get-together may never happen. So, you arrange it.
Or if you’ve distanced yourself from your family because of something your uncle said at the last Christmas gathering that offended you, and you’re not doing another Christmas until he changes his attitude – that may never happen.
So, bite the bullet. We know you don’t like confrontation- but chat to the guy. Who knows, he may not have realized he was being an arrogant a-hole and you can get your family back just in time for Christmas!
You Feel Too “Fat” and “Ugly” to Go Out
You’ve let yourself go. It’s been eating from sunup till sundown, channel hopping on Netflix, mustering up just the right amount of energy to walk to the bathroom to brush your teeth and that’s basically about it.
Now, you’re overweight, your skin looks terrible from all the sh*t you’ve eaten, and your orange peel thighs are more like a potholed road in South Africa.
Time to cut the crap Aluxers and get off your ass and start moving.
And we don’t mean home gym in front of the computer while taking a bite of chocolate in between lunges.
We mean getting some fresh air. Going for a brisk walk. Getting the heart rate up and the cheeks flushed. Very soon you’ll start feeling better about your outward appearance which makes you feel better on the inside and saying yes becomes far easier.
You Waste All Your Money on Crap
Have you ever wondered why there is so much month left at the end of your money? It’s possible you’re wasting a lot of your hard-earned cash on rubbish.
So, when you’re asked out – you are broke AF.
Track your spending for a month. Be strict with yourself and write down every single penny spent. At the end of the month, you’ll have a much clearer idea of where you can save a little and have some money leftover to do fun things.
In our video, 15 Things You Should NOT Spend Money On, we mentioned “Things you don’t remember.” And what we brought across here is if you’re spending your money on things that won’t bring any memory or joy in the future, then why are you doing it?
We don’t mean your taxes and bills, we mean things like a take-out burger, even though you’re not really hungry and it’s not really what you feel like, but you’re bored and you’re eating just because it’s there.
Focus on rather saving that money and then spending it on things that you will remember!
You’re Doing the Same Thing Repetitively
Your life is like the instructions on a shampoo bottle. Wash, rinse, repeat.
No wonder it’s boring, Aluxers.
Shake things up a little. Order a different take-away coffee, drive a different route, call up an old friend. Skip the home workout session and grab a cocktail somewhere.
It’s scientifically proven that changing your routine has so many advantages, from having more energy, increased productivity and increased creativity, you’re more interesting to be around – makes sense because you’re filling your day with new experiences and all those new experiences teach you new things; introduce you to new people and give you a different perspective on life.
You’re Not Living in the Moment
We highlighted this very point in our video, 15 ways to build focus, when we mentioned that it was hard to focus “when your mind is racing to things that happened in the past or wondering about something that may or not happen in the future.”
You lose the beauty of the right now. And “just like that” that moment is gone, and you weren’t even there to enjoy it.
To help you live in the moment and assuage the what if’s and if I had done… we’ve created a mindmastery course.
You Haven’t Had Sex in a Long Time
At this stage, you need help spelling the word… and it’s no wonder you’re feeling bored AF. Plus, it didn’t help that you weren’t exactly feeling hot or good-looking, and felt like you had to change with the lights dimmed even when you were alone.
We get it, meeting people in these bizarre times of Covid is not exactly a walk in the park. So, if you’re a single pringle, ready to mingle, you might need to hang tight a little bit.
But we’re speaking about the couples that are choosing to watch re-runs instead of watching their partners get turned on, and that’s just bloody boring. And it’s really difficult to get the passion fired up if you’re still wearing the sweatpants, and the same hoodie 7 days in a row.
So, turn off the TV and turn up the heat under the covers and spend some time rediscovering that person that you couldn’t get enough of in the beginning days.
You’re Watching Too Much TV
And worrying more about Beth Harmon’s next move then how your friend’s actual move to a new home went. Ouch.
Spoiler Alert… your friend’s move went well… but it would have been appreciated if you had shown some support.
So, if that’s where you are in life – no wonder it’s boring. Turn the screen off and go do something IRL!
You Don’t Get Enough Quality Sleep
Aluxers, you know how crap you feel the next day when you don’t get enough sleep… now imagine that lacklustre, demotivating feeling enveloping you every, single day? It is so difficult to get anything done when you feel like that, and all you want to do is crawl into bed, put the covers over your head and wake up when “it’s all over.”
As American playwright, raconteur, and entrepreneur, Wilson Mizner aptly put it, “The amount of sleep required by the average person is five minutes more.”
Switch off the technology, stop watching late into the night and invest in yourself by getting those extra minutes of much needed sleep… and bye, bye boredom!
You Spend More Time Coveting What Other People Have
How much time do you waste longing for things you don’t have? And then getting yourself into such a dark space that it takes forever to get out of there.
Aluxers, you are better than that!
Now, if you want to have cool things, then go make an effort to earn them yourself. Nobody going to do it for you, don’t expect people to do it for you… get off your as* and hustle to get the things you so badly want.
Our Minds Are Constantly Busy, and We Are Overstimulated
Aluxers, you know how it goes. We wake up and first thing we do is reach over to our phone and scroll. Then we might listen to music or a podcast while we get ready for work. Then we head to work, and we either drive and listen to something or we take public transport and stick earphones in our ears.
Visually, we see billboards, advertising, flashing lights, anything just to grab our attention. It’s constant 24/7 stimulus. And when it all stops, we mistake that tranquillity for boredom.
Aluxers, we need to focus on the right now. When we do that, we will gain a peace and appreciation of living in that moment. It’s not necessary to fill every gap with something – but rather, as Eckart Tolle said in his book, The Power of Now, “Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.”
You’re Not Taking Any Risks
Playing it too safe doesn’t make for grand stories to tell the grandkids one day. Take some chances and live a little. We don’t mean flinging yourself out of an airplane, if you’re scared sh*tless, that’s totally fine… you don’t need to go to those extremes.
But what we mean is put yourself in a new environment, let someone else make the plans and go with the flow, Make a list of growth goals you’d like to achieve and compare the best and worst possible outcomes. When you do that, you’ll realize how little you lose by taking a risk, but how much you gain instead.
You Feel Worthless
And that’s tough now with Covid, we understand that there are major ups and down with the current situation and boredom is the result of feeling uncertain, anxious and worthless.
It’s difficult to make concrete plans, because nobody knows what the future holds. It’s hard to set a realistic goal when you don’t even know when you’ll be able to do the things needed to achieve that goal.
Our faces are covered with masks and we feel like the power is out of our hands. Aluxers, we hear you and, in our bonus, we add a tough to accept angle of boredom.
Why do you think you’re bored? Share your reasons with us, we love hearing from you.