This Article Is a Throwback to the Wisest Motherly Advice That as Young Brats We Had Ignored.
Being a mom is not always easy, and packing a pearl of wisdom in a motherly advice is an art. It has its ups and downs, highs and lows and everything in between. It can be super challenging and highly rewarding. Like Jill Churchill once said, “There is no way to be a perfect mother, but a million ways to be a good one.”
Aluxers, today we hear some beautiful words from moms around the world. You’ve probably heard a few from your own mom or dished them out yourself and thought, I sound just like mom right now!
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With that provided, let’s spring back to remembering the nostalgic yet incredibly needed motherly advice of all time.
You Can Make Any Choice You Want, as Long as You Are Willing to Accept the Consequences That Come With It
Aluxers, every decision we make has consequences – whether they be big or small. For example, choosing to have sugared cereal for breakfast every day might not have an immediate consequence, but over the long run you may notice yourself filling out a little more. You eat more to compensate for the lack of substance, and you struggle with sugar highs and sugar lows.
And that’s just a minor.
If you were to choose to marry someone that you didn’t truly love, because he or she was wealthy, you might never be truly happy. And that is the consequence of your decision.
We all have the freedom to choose, but we must all accept the consequences – good or bad – of our decision.
You Don’t Always Need to Air Your Dirty Laundry
The concept has gained new life since the emergence of social media, but the advice is straight-forward. There is no need to vent your problems to every Tom, Dick, and Harry. By all means, speak to your closest friends and family about any issues you might be having, or if the issues are with them, seek professional help, but airing your problems on social media is gaining you no brownie points.
Those cryptic and vague posts that make people ask you what’s wrong, the rant about the ex-boyfriend, the mother-in-law, the schoolteacher … they’re not meant for on-air consumption. Dirty laundry goes in a wash basket and not on Facebook!
People Are Who They Are, and We Don’t Live Their Lives for Them. Live and Let Live. Everyone Deserves Happiness
This sound advice was given out by Alice Chan, mom of David Eng. His mom would say these words to anyone who couldn’t understand why her son was gay. The words are powerful and can be used for any and every situation.
We don’t live other peoples lives for them, that’s not our job. If they’re happy, that’s great! If they’re not and they need an ear, be that ear… but it’s their life, not yours! So, stop interfering and trying to “fix” them – you have issues of your own that need attention too!
Pick Your Battles
Originally penned by author, C. JoyBell C., who wrote “Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn’t measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It’s not winning battles that makes you happy, but it’s how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring. Fight only the most, most, most important ones, let the rest go.”
This is advice that really rings true for moms. When you nitpick over every little thing, your kids tune out. When you’re constantly problem-solving everything for them, they’re not learning to take charge and responsibility, and if the “battle” is going to be of no major importance 24-hours from now and will save everyone from getting upset – just Let It Go.
If You Open It, Close It. If You Turn It on, Turn It off. If You Take It Out, Put It Back. If You Empty It, Fill It. If You Fill It, Empty It
Seems simple enough, doesn’t it? Yet – somehow, we don’t follow through! It’s a matter of respect and this advice was shared by Kathryn Malter, from Minnesota with her son, Henry. He uses this advice as work rules for his staff at his laboratory.
It’s a matter of leaving things as you find them. Often called the Golden Rules for Living, it’s printed on every home décor item imaginable – but it’s solid advice which we’re certain your mom has dispensed several times!
Don’t Make Decisions When You’re Angry. Don’t Make Promises When You’re Happy
Aluxers, how easy is it to just get sucked into the moment, only to have deep regrets the next day? You’ve been shat on by the boss and in a moment of sheer anger, you march to your desk and start packing up all your goods and you quit.
The next day, you realize what a terrible mistake you’ve made and it’s too late. You can’t take it back. It’s totally ok to get angry but sit with it a while before making any rash decision. You will likely find the anger has subsided significantly by the next day and you have no strong desire to just up and quit your job.
And vice versa… You’re in a pocket of complete happiness and you promise the world and when it comes to delivering on that promise, you’re unable to follow through. Only make a promise when you are pre-determined to follow through and complete it, regardless of the circumstances. Temporary emotions are not conducive to permanent decisions.
Never Make Someone a Priority Who Only Makes You an Option
Bet you’re remembering that exact person who walked all over you, who used you and treated you badly, yet you kept going back for more. Aluxers, we’ve all been there. Don’t you wish you had heeded this advice when it was given to you?
This momvice is legit, and if you find yourself making excuses for people thar are treating you unkindly, like they’re just busy, they’re going through a rough time, they’re stressed… you find yourself trying to change who you are. You think, maybe you’re the problem. You need to be a better boyfriend or girlfriend, you need to try harder, you need to change.
And for sure, there are times when we do need to take responsibility and change when we’re wrong. But don’t waste your time on that person who makes themselves a priority all the time. If someone wants to spend time with you, they will. If they want to date you, they will. If they keep making excuses, you deserve better and walk away.
The Way Someone Treats You Is a Reflection of How They Feel About Themselves
True, this is a major over-simplification – but here’s a question for you.
Have you ever been accused of cheating, only to realize you’ve been cheated on?
Have you ever been made out to be a liar, only to discover that you’ve been lied to?
Have you ever been made to feel insecure, only to understand that the person making you feel that way is insecure?
You’ve probably answered yes to at least one of those questions. Often the mistreatment you get from someone is something that person is worried about. The truth is, they’re not accusing you of those things, they are admitting the truth – so listen carefully to how people speak to you, it says a lot.
Never Forget That Who You Are Is So Much Greater Than What You Do
Asking someone what they do is normal, and we tend to respect people more when they say things like, “I’m a doctor, pilot, famous YouTuber,” but that tells us nothing about who they are as a person.
Is that person kind? Are they respectful? Do they treat everything as their equal?
It doesn’t matter what career a person is in, it doesn’t make them a better person. So, never judge a person by their line of work, but rather by their pureness of heart and spirit. And this ties in nicely with our next point.
Be Kind – Always
A group of moms were together with their toddlers at a Moms and Tots class, when the teacher asked the moms what they would like their children to be one day.
Like in our previous post, the mom’s replies were, a doctor, a lawyer, a pilot… ok, they never said famous YouTuber… but you get the point.
The last mom to answer simply said, I want my son to be kind. And that is what every parent ultimately wants, but we forget that life is not always about the fancy career or car, but about kindness. And if your children are kind, you have raised a good kid.
Kindness should never be confused with weakness or naivety. To be kind in an unkind world takes courage and strength, which are remarkable qualities for anybody to have.
Warmth, gentleness, trustworthiness, affectionate, considerate, friendly, and generous are all qualities of kindness, and they’re all commendable traits to have at any age.
And bonus – studies confirm that kindness brings a sense of well-being that can’t be achieved by any other way! So, heed mom’s advice – and be kind, always!
Give It Horns
It’s just another way of saying, “give it all you’ve got,” or “you go girl”… give it horns means make me proud, don’t hold back and put your heart and soul into what you’re doing.
Aluxers, trying your best at everything you do, leaves little chance of regret. You won’t have to worry about a time when you might say, “I should have done that better”, or “I could have tried a little harder”… because you know you gave it your all. You can sleep well at night knowing that whatever the outcome, you did your best.
As the saying goes, “what you plant now, you will harvest later.” So, if you’re only putting 50% effort, you’re only going to get 50% out of it. If you give it horns and put in 100%, you’ll get 100% out of it.
Now, speaking of planting… let’s look at our next one.
If the Grass Is Greener on the Other Side, There’s Probably More SH*T There
Sure, it’s not like that all the time – but these days, people are posting their seemingly glorious lives all over social media, and their real lives are anything but.
We mentioned the story of Chinese influencer, Lisa Li in our video, “10 best ways to build a great reputation,” who would always display her glam lifestyle to her 1.1 million followers. Her landlord called her out for it and filmed her grotty apartment that had dog faeces, old food, and dirty dishes everywhere.
So, she may look like a success story, but there’s plenty of sh*t on her side of the fence.
Nobody has it all together, so rather use your energy and focus on getting your own grass greener, then pining for something that might just be an illusion.
Say Yes to the Trip
Oh Aluxers, how many great experiences have you missed out on because you were too afraid, shy, tired, or broke to say yes. Say yes to the trip! Travel is education and that can never be taken away from you.
We will forget the material things we owned, but we will always remember the road trips, the coffee breaks in small towns, the camping under the stars, and beautiful sunrises and sunsets.
Don’t regret saying no to these opportunities, they don’t come along often enough!
Regret is a funny thing, and we do spend a lot of time regretting… don’t let that be you! Soak in our next piece of fabulous momvice!
Need more inspiration to begin flying around? Here are “15 Reasons Why You Should Travel the World“.
Don’t Waste Time on Regret
We all have regrets Aluxers, it’s a part of life. We can reduce those regrets by heeding to some of the advice dispensed in this article – like Give It Horns and Say yes to the trip. But, say you didn’t do those things and you’re feeling “meh” about it, here’s what you do.
You don’t want to dwell on it forever, it’s not healthy. Accept you made a mistake. Forgive yourself for it. Make amends if it affected others. Leave it behind you but remember where you went wrong and do the opposite next time.
You Can’t Please Everyone, You’re Not Cheese
This has been said in many different ways and it boils down to one basic concept. Not everyone is going to like you. And that’s ok.
But trying to change to make people like you, is not ok. That’s exhausting and pointless, because while you’re out trying to please everyone else, you’re not pleasing yourself.
So, the sooner you accept that you can’t make everybody happy, the sooner you’re going to live your own happy life! And when you exude happiness and confidence, doors will open for you where they’re meant to open.
So, Aluxers, there’s some food for thought. What was the best advice your mom ever gave you? We love hearing from you!