Watch Out for Signs of Burnout before They Swallow You Whole. Here Are a Few Ways You Can Prevent Burnout.
When people experience signs of “burnout” they usually assume it’s because they’re doing way too much… but have you ever thought about the flipside?
Is it possible that you’re feeling burnt out because you’re not doing enough things that actually make you feel alive?… not making time for the things that truly matter to your overall happiness and wellbeing?
Today we’re diving deep into that flipside to talk about 10 Reasons You’re Feeling Burnt Out – And What To Do About It.
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You Suck at Setting Boundaries
Are you the kind of person who can’t say “No”?
Being a people pleaser is a major cause for these signs of burnout to appear, and believe it or not, it usually starts somewhere in our childhood.
Kids who grew up with less than unconditional love often have a hard time turning people down or saying no – even when it’s something they don’t want to do.
This leads to way too many commitments and spreading yourself so thin you could shatter into a million pieces at any moment.
For this, it’s important to retrain your mind to understand that you can’t pour from an empty cup; saying no and setting boundaries isn’t jilting others… It’s an act of self-love. Practice it enough, and it’ll become second nature.
Doing Work You Don’t Care About
Look, it’s kind of unrealistic to think that every human being will end up working a job or landing a career they absolutely love all the time, but there’s a difference between loving what you do, and caring about what you do.
No matter what, there will always be aspects of our work that we don’t necessarily enjoy, but if you find yourself hating every.little.thing. It’s time to reassess.
What is it that bothers you most?… Is there a person you can hash out your problems with to brainstorm solutions? Is there a mindset shift you need to work on to be less negative? – sometimes it really is just a frame of mind thing.
However – if you’ve hit a point where you feel zero value in the work that you do, it’s time to take control of the situation and change up how you make a living, or else you’ll keep noticing these signs of burnout.
All Work and No Play
These are the folx who wear the signs of their burnout like a badge of honour… the ones who think
Busy = successful… the ones who will never be happy.
There may not be such a thing as “work-life balance” but there IS such a thing as a balanced life – and it involves play.
Yes, it’s important to be disciplined about work – but many high-achievers forget to be disciplined about allowing themselves to kick back and just… be silly, be reminded of the kid they once were, and get in touch with them for a while.
Easier said than done, but as humans, we are our habits – so work on making a habit out of including some play in every day… and it’ll keep the burnout at bay – okay that’s enough rhyming let’s move on
You’re Not Making Time for Your Friends
This one sort of ties in with the previous point “all work and no play”
Humans are social creatures… if you deprive yourself for long enough, signs of burnout are almost inevitable.
It’s important to cultivate those bonds with a select few people in life; the ones who understand you, make you feel seen and cared for… the ones you can share your true self without fear of judgement.
If you’re in a place where you don’t currently have those kinds of people, the good news is there’s more than 7 billion people on this planet and guaranteed your tribe is out there.
A good place to start is in the comment section below… right away, you have something to bond over – you’re both aluxers.
You’re a Perfectionist
This is a tricky one, because it’s always rooted somewhere deep inside our minds.
People who lead with their perfectionist tendencies, usually have a deep-seated fear of getting it wrong, or disappointing others. In their eyes, nothing they do is ever good enough.
Like anything related to personality, the first step is to recognize what’s going on, and get mindful about it – because true perfectionism can lead to a whole host of badness, like extreme procrastination, chronic stress, depression… and tragically, even suicide.
If you notice yourself in the rut of perfectionism, take that as a cue to check in with yourself… what are you feeling… what triggered those feelings… get work on creating new ways to cope with them.
It’s not going to be an overnight quick fix;. It took us a lifetime to become this way, it’s gonna take time and effort to retrain the mind… and if you need some help in that department, don’t worry because we got’chu.
Head to alux.com/meditation and join the thousands of people who have already taken control of their thoughts through our premium course called Mind Mastery. It’s meditation and mindfulness like you’ve never experienced it before.
You’re a Debbie Downer
You know those people who can look at literally any situation and list off at least a dozen negative things about it? Yeah… those guys are burning out.
It sounds kinda wishy-washy, but there’s a f*ckload of power in positive thoughts and affirmations… they quite literally can rewire your brain to be more optimistic and positive.
The trick is, you have to do it consistently, even when it feels stupid or your don’t believe the words coming out of your own mouth. Just say them anyway.
Be mindful of your negative thoughts and try to counter them in real time.
Keeping a gratitude journal is almost cliche at this point, but it’s another tool to help retrain the mind to see the positives. Do it every day and you’ll notice the shift inside within weeks.
If you are in need of some positive advice to uplift your mood, check out 15 Positive Advice You Need to Hear.
You’re Unable to Delegate
Letting go of the need for control is tough, right?… but not doing it is a surefire way to burn yourself out.
There isn’t a person in this world who can do everything themselves, all the time… as much as many people try.
The whole idea of “if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself” is like some kind of attempt at justifying this trait, but in reality, it often produces poor results when it’s your main M.O.
Being able to delegate is actually a power-move; recognizing you can’t do it all and asking for help not only brings higher-quality results… but you can relax a little bit AND share that sense of accomplishment with others… it’s a win-win.
Your Circle is Toxic
And this goes for both work and personal life.
We’ve said many times that you are the sum of the people you spend most of your time with, and if those people are toxic, they’re burning you out and dragging you down.
Like many of the points on this list – mindfulness is key.
Take stock of the people you interact with most in life and consider if they leave you feeling uplifted, or dragged down.
Examine those feelings and identify who you need to limit exposure to. Set those boundaries we talked about earlier to free yourself from their grasp.
If these people are in your workplace, speak to a supervisor to work out solutions to move desks or switch teams in order to drop the toxicity in your life. If they don’t support you, start planning your exit strategy.
You’ve Got Unclear Expectations
Not many things are as stressful to a high-achiever as not understanding what’s expected of them. In a situation like this, it’s important to lean into communication, even if that feels intimidating.
So many kids go through school NOT raising their hand to ask questions or gain clarity… and what good does that do in the long run? Literally nothing; zero good comes from it.
The only way to work out of this specific kind of work fog is to be very clear about what you need in order to feel comfortable in your role.
Many times, the people in charge of you are unaware of how you’re feeling… they’re not mind readers. It’s important to stand up for your own peace of mind, and have the conversations that will get you what you need. You are your biggest advocate.
Let’s end this list with something none of us can really escape right now – we’re faaaaar away from “precedented” times, and real talk – you’re not alone, it’s still messing with all of us.
The New York Times came out with an article a few months ago that made everyone feel “seen” and gave us a name to put with all these weird feelings of emptiness, feeling stuck, loss of focus… and that fancy little word is languishing – but it doesn’t have to rule your life.
Covid Languishing is mostly spurred by feelings of uncertainty – and there’s lots of it going around – but the way to help yourself combat those feelings is by really narrowing your focus to things you can actually control – which is a pretty freeing exercise.
Instead of letting your mind spiral into all those “what if’s” and trying to plan an uncertain future – take it all down to the basics and do things one week, or even day at a time, if you have to.
Focus on moving your body, making a meal, even just sitting outside… give yourself 30 minutes a day to just breathe and do something simple for yourself; no pressure, just presence… making that happen consistently goes a long ass way.
And there you have it Aluxers… 10 reasons you might be burning out right now… and what to do about it.
In the last couple years, pretty much all of us have danced with burnout – so we’re curious, what’s something you do for yourself to help manage the signs of burnout and stop it from ruling your life. Join the conversation and share your tips in the comments – you might really help someone in need!