10 Reasons Why You’re Not Successful Yet
I’m sure you were looking for them, so here are the 10 reasons why you’re not successful yet.
Everybody is struggling to be successful and achieve their goals, but of course, there are many obstacles along the way.
But what exactly are the things that hold the millennials back? What are the real problems that stand in the way of the Y generation?
The first step in crawling your way to the top is to identify the obstacles that will come across the way, to become conscious of them and to know how to defeat them.
Let me try to open your eyes and make it easier for you. What’s going to happen next is only up to you.
10.Procrastination
Procrastinators unite…tomorrow! Right?
Wrong! Procrastination is the illness of this century, the weakest point of the millennial generation.
We lose ourselves in postponing everything we can until the last minute and making excuses: “I’ll do it tomorrow”, “Maybe later”, “I didn’t do it because my dog wanted to watch Oprah together”.
But the thing is this: if you want to do something, first of all you have to START doing it. When you enter a race, the first step is on the start line.
So how can you achieve success if you don’t even start going in that direction and you keep laying on the couch making excuses?
9.Time waits for no man
There’s no rush, you’ve got plenty of time, don’t you?
The ugly truth is that time is tricky and it fools us all. The reality is that you don’t even know when time flies by.
Let’s make a quick exercise: do you remember when you entered middle school? Then finished high school? And then graduated from university?
Do you remember when all those years that are actually more than a decade went by? They all seem like a blink of an eye right now, don’t they?
The point I’m trying to make is that you don’t really have plenty of time to do some things. There are rare opportunities that happen once in a lifetime or once in ten years and you can’t afford to waste that much time.
And the question remains, as Emma Watson said in the speech on feminism for the U.N. this year:
If not now…when?
8.You don’t really believe
So, let’s suppose you learn how to defeat procrastination, you need something else to get you started.
A strong belief.
I’m sure you’ve heard lots of speeches, some of them about things that never caught your attention before, but the speaker stood up for those matters so firmly, he was so devoted that he convinced you, too.
Do you know how he managed to do that? Because he believed. He truly believed in what he was talking about.
If you don’t 100% believe in what you want to do, you’ll only get to a certain point, but I guarantee you that isn’t the finish line.
So before you start going in a direction, do some serious research and make sure you are completely convinced of what you’re standing for. That will keep you going.
7.Lack of motivation
This is one of the most important things on the way to success.
In order to achieve success, you need motivation. The lack of motivation is what holds thousands of people back from becoming successful because wanting something isn’t motivational enough.
Do you know why I’ve told you about believing first? Because a strong belief is the solid foundation of motivation.
Take for example the feminists‘ fight as this is one of the most controversial subjects at the moment. First of all you have to really believe in what they stand for and in the moment you understand the reasons, the motivation will come naturally, the motivation to make justice to all the women out there including yourself or the close ones.
6.Your crew
Always be careful what people you surround yourself with.
Jim Rohn, one of the greatest motivational speakers, once said that:
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
And if you think about it, he’s damn right. No matter how determined you are, if everyone around you goes in another direction, maybe they won’t drag you with them, but they will most certainly give you some second thoughts and that’s a slow down for your way to success.
5.You don’t know regret
Always keep regret in mind.
If you’re not doing everything you can in order to achieve your dreams or if you don’t take an opportunity that reveals itself to you, then you don’t know the meaning of regret.
At this point, if you’re having regrets about a past experience consider yourself lucky because that will stop you from doing the same mistakes over and over again.
I guarantee you that the pain of not doing something and then later wondering “But what if I?” is unbearable. I know it is really hard to listen to someone when you haven’t experienced it by yourself, but take care of you and don’t allow yourself to go through the Hell of regrets.
4.You don’t set reminders
This is one of the secret keys when it comes to persuasion.
Let’s imagine you’re trying to sell a service or product to a large audience. We’ll take the best case scenario and we’ll say that you’ve gotten the attention of a person, he agrees with you, he’s interested in your product/service and he wants to buy it. But your service is available in 6 months.
What do you think will be the result if nothing else happens by then? The customer will completely forget about your service because let’s be serious, we are exposed to tons of data and information every day. Therefore, you have to set reminders every now and then to keep him interested until the time comes.
Well, now imagine you’re trying to sell the success to yourself. If you don’t keep reminding yourself what’s your goal, your final destination, it will all fade away and you will fail.
3.Persistence: 0
So, let’s say you’ve got yourself together and you’re doing everything by the book by now.
But you didn’t think it will all go flawless, did you? I think you forgot to set one important reminder: nothing good comes easy.
The trouble is when the obstacles line up in front of you. The even bigger trouble is when you fail for the first time.
This is the crucial point in your way to success and it all comes down to this: you either fall down and lay there or you fall down and you get right back up.
This is the problem with us all, we’re breaking down when things don’t go the way we want them to go on the first try and that’s one of the main reasons that keeps us away from success.
But did you know that Steven Spielberg got rejected from film school three times? That Steve Jobs was fired from the company that he started? That Bill Gates’ first business failed? That The Beatles were dropped by their first record label? And that Jim Carrey used to be homeless? These are just a few examples, for a stronger motivation to keep you going check out the 10 Famous Successful Persons Who Overcame Huge Obstacles.
2.Huge Expectations
If you thought time was tricky, don’t even get me started on expectations.
Sure, expectations are good and must exist when you’re planning your way to success, but there’s a fine line not everybody knows how to cross it.
I’ve told you about persistence first because it is directly connected with the expectations. If you’re the type that builds up in his/her head huge expectation, then you’re going to need a Hell lot of persistence.
But if you’re going for smaller, more realistic expectations you don’t have to work that much on persistence and everything is going to be in a perfect equilibrium. So, you know what you have to do!
1.You know-it-all
This is one important lesson and I hope you’ll take it for granted when I’ll tell you.
Of course, I’m aware most of you won’t do it so and you’re going to face it on your own. Get ready because it’s going to be tough.
When you’re struggling on your way to success you have to always keep in mind something: you’re not going to make it on your own.
You don’t know everything, you cannot do everything alone and there are people out there who have a lot more life experience than you, so you’d better listen to their advice.
Let me tell you one thing:
Admitting you need help doesn’t make you week, it makes you wiser.
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