What are the Rules to Live a Happy Life? Let’s find out!
We initially wanted to make a fluff video about spirituality and how happiness comes from within, but after giving it some thought we said screw it, let’s do it right; so we boiled it down to 15 rules to live a happy life!
This is unlike any other video about “how to be happy in life” you’ve probably ever seen, because we’re not gonna hold back and fill your head with meaningless quotes you’ll forget in a second.
Instead we recommend you pay attention to what we’re about to share with you because if you really absorb this information, it could save you a lot of pain and sleepless nights. You gotta put in the work and not sabotage yourself.
In order to live a happy life, you basically need to figure out how to minimize the amount of stress and harm you cause to yourself and others. Combine that with the satisfaction of achieving some of your goals and you’re off to a great start.
As always, there’s the video version of 15 Rules to Live a Happy Life if you don’t feel like reading:
Here’s our take on how to live a happy and fulfilling life:
Number 1: Define from which point you consider yourself successful
The big mistake most people make is think they need a billion dollars to be happy, they think they need a large yacht, a big house, 100 friends and millions donated to charity.
These people will never make it.
Money is an amazing tool to have in your arsenal, but that’s all it is, ONE OF THE TOOLS, it’s by no means the end goal.
Statistically, you are a lot more likely to be happy with just 2 friends than over 10, because the more the size of the friendpool increases, the less amount of attention each of the participants can show one another.
Also, comfort is really awesome, but happiness comes from not having to worry about the basics.
Everything beyond basic happiness is called pleasure!
If you don’t know where you’re going it doesn’t matter how hard you run.
Number 2: Realize how much you already have and be grateful for it
Without the appreciation of how blessed you really are, you’re not gonna be able to move forward. Just take a step back and analyze your current reality. The fact that you’re able to watch this video right now means you’re actually doing really great.
Having access to the type of information our channel provides is another form of luxury these days.
Think of what your life was like 5 years ago and how much it has changed for the better. Do not take these changes for granted. Don’t take your health, your family, your progress for granted!
Being grateful for what you already have is the perfect place to begin this journey from.
Number 3: Don’t F-Up the BIG things
This is the big one. If you get this one right everything else in this video is just a bonus.
The most important things in life are: FAMILY, HEALTH & RELATIONSHIPS.
Get any of these 3 wrong and it doesn’t matter how much you try to overcompensate with anything else; your foundation is rotten and your entire life might collapse.
If you find the right partner in life you can withstand almost anything they have to throw at you. Your family is your most valuable support group. You grow up inside a family and then you develop your own for a reason. They have your back no matter what!
In order to help others, you need to first help yourself. Make sure you are able to do so. That’s why you need to be healthy!
And finally, the beauty in life comes from sharing the good times with others. You will feed your soul with the relationships you build throughout your life. If those relationships are toxic your life will be as well.
From this point on in the video, it’s just strategic tips for incremental improvements in your life.
Number 4: Don’t compromise
The more you do things you don’t want to do, the less happy you are.
Your life is just the sum of events that take place and in order to be happy you need to have your conscious clear. Every time you do something you don’t want to do, you’re tearing down pieces of what makes you, you.
Don’t stick with the soul-crushing job, stop letting people treat you like shit and never settle for something or someone who doesn’t make you happy. It doesn’t get better with time.. Instead you learn to tolerate it and make this type of existence a part of who you are.
Number 5: Stop worrying about things you can’t control
We stress so damn much about things we can do nothing about that it’s no wonder people are self-medicating to the degree they are today.
When faced with such a situation, here’s what you need to do:
- make sure you prepare for it beforehand – so that it doesn’t catch you by surprise
- Once it happens, put your best foot forward and tackle the situation head on – stressful situations only get worse if you ignore them.
- Once you did everything in your power to solve the issue, let it go and see what happens.
- As things progress be ready to react to the new changes.
If you follow this 4 step plan you can get through almost anything life throws at you.
If you’re struggling with this, we did 2 really great videos on the things you can and can’t control in life which you can check out below. It’s amazing how much control people have but do not act upon it.
Number 6: Benchmark against yourself
Meaning.. The only person you should compare yourself with is your past self.
It’s super easy to look at other people and feel down because you don’t have the same level of success, the same level of happiness or the same type of relationships, but what you fail to realize is that you’re comparing someone’s final chapter with your first few ones.
If you keep putting in the work, keep flipping them pages, you’ll get to it yourself.
People don’t realize the importance of slow progress!
It’s more important to move slowly in the right direction than sprint to a place you don’t want to be!
Number 7: Surround yourself with great people
Your familia, your crew, your squad, your friends, your tribe, they can turn things around for you if you pick them right.
We feed of the energy, the ideas, the vibes of others and having the right kind of people around is such a valuable asset for yourself and your future.
Almost any issue you have in your life gets a lot easier if you build the right support system around yourself.
You don’t need many, all you need is a partner who’s willing to go through this life with you no matter what and 1 or 2 friends who would wake up at 3 am and bail you out if it came to it.
Hopefully, it shouldn’t come to it, but that’s how you know it’s real.
So how do you make this happen?
To this day there’s a single book that nobody has been able to top. It’s called How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. It’s probably the best advice you’ll ever get on the issue and we recommend you get it as an audiobook so you can listen to it in the car or at the gym. If you go to alux.com/freebook and sign up you can get it for free.
It was one of the first books we read and to this day we still use some of the things we’ve learned from it.
Number 8: Don’t overthink
More people miss their chances due to overthinking than those who don’t think about it at all and just do.. Don’t get us wrong, both ways are dumb, but if opportunity presents itself, if you’ve done your homework beforehand and you’re ready, you need to jump on it.
Overthinking leads to a life filled with regret for not acting when you should have. That’s how you end up still thinking about the girl you should’ve kissed or asked out when you were a teenager.
The same pattern of behavior repeats itself when you’re older with the same type of results. People overthink things that sometimes have an easy fix or are even outside of their control.
Number 9: Be healthy
In order to have a happy and fulfilled life you need to be able to enjoy it. You should be able to use all your senses to appreciate how fruitful life is.
You need to understand that your health level directly correlates to your levels of happiness. If you are weak and ill, your body’s chemistry changes, thus secreting less quantities of the things that make you feel happy and outgoing. You will make choices based on that current state thus behaving in a different fashion than you would if you were healthy.
This doesn’t concern only your physical state, but your psychical as well. You can be as ripped as you want but if your mind is not in the right place you’re still unhappy. Seek ways to improve both and your chances of living a happy life dramatically increase.
Number 10: Appreciate the little things in life
No matter how hard you tell yourself that you “only need to get this thing done” and then you’re gonna be happy, life is what happens to you while you’re hustling away towards your dream.
Work as hard as you want, but do it in a fashion that doesn’t make you sacrifice everything.
These little moments and motions you go through every day, they stack up and form what you know as “Your Life”, so you better pay attention to them, because even if you get your dream goal, you might just realize that you’ve sacrificed too much and now it wasn’t worth it.
We recommend you at least know what to look for, that’s why we made a video called 15 Little Things To Appreciate in Life. You can watch it below:
If you go through that video and just are aware of what the most important little things are, you will be able to not fall in the same trap many others will.
Number 11: Exercise your passion
Happiness comes from doing the things you love. A life lived without passion is not a life truly lived, you were just alive and then you died.
Passion is what sets people apart, is what helps people escape the mundane and move into a different universe filled with the most incredible elements.
Passion pushes people to be better, to create more or simply calms the soul. You need all 3 in your life to be happy.
If you can monetize your passion, that’s even better, but if you can’t at least find a way to exercise it in some form or another, it will keep you sane.
Number 12: Make other people happy
Guess what, making other people happy results in your being happier for a longer period of time than just serving yourself.
Who knew that this was the secret to happiness all along?!
If you can generate happiness for others everything changes in your life. Your energy, your mindset, your productivity and attitude towards life.
You are the living example that good things are happening in the world. The effect you have on other people snowballs and creates even more happiness which you’ll find is reflected back onto you.
If your life is miserable, you might want to start by changing the way you treat others.
Number 13: Disconnect & Explore
This is another big one, especially in today’s social media centered society.
Recent studies show that social networks are making you less happy with your life. This is because:
NOBODY IS POSTING THEIR FAILURES or BAD DAYS!
Instead, all you see is people faking happiness and showcasing feelings you currently don’t have access to. We’ve learned first hand how fake social media can be.
That’s why it is important to disconnect not only from social media, but from your everyday life.
We recommend you change your scenery, see new places, meet different people and live different experiences. This elevates who you are as a person, the more you explore and experience, the more complex of a mind you become.
You will see the world through new eyes.
This is what we are trying to do with our Instagram account: @alux
Apart from introducing you to some of the best luxury experiences in the world, we try to give you some ideas to reflect on, to think what your life would be like if you shifted the way you live. If you’re not following, you’re missing out + we love the community there as well, we usually reply to private messages so that’s a secret you just found out.
Number 14: Don’t take yourself too seriously
Happiness comes from not pretending to be something you’re not and being embraced by the world for just that.
As we kept growing, we noticed our set of valued maturing as well, but we never forgot about the inner child. That particular state of mind never went away and it shouldn’t.
The mind is a dangerous place for those who no longer see the beauty in fooling around.
Take the stick out from your behind and live a little, for those are the best moments in life and most great ideas will come from that place. Domestication of ideas only results in what we already know. Combine it with the desire for more and you’re on the right track.
That’s why the late Steve Jobs always said: Stay Hungry, Stay FOOLISH!
Number 15: Spend money on experiences, not things
Most things you buy are depreciating assets, while experiences increase in value as you grow older.
We’re not talking about financial investments for the goal of generating financial returns.
This has to do with how much happiness you can get for your buck. There are many psychology professors who back up the claim that experiences have a longer happiness span than material things.
You might think that this is obvious, but you’d be amazed how very few people leverage this to their advantage. We see many people buy items like the latest Louis Vuitton X Supreme hoodie which got disregarded after a couple of weeks when with the same amount of money you could have an incredible experience for you and a loved one that would stick with you forever.
Be smart about your happiness Aluxers!
Happiness, very much life wealth, doesn’t just happen to you, you have to build it yourself!
We’re curious to know, which of the rules mentioned on this list do you think will make the biggest difference in your life? Where will you focus your attention next? Let us know in the comments and we will join the conversation!
This was our take on 15 Rules to Live a Happy Life! Hope you found it valuable!